1) WHAT MAKES A GOOD FAMILY GREAT?
- UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
- GOOD COMMUNICATION
- JOY
- GRATITUDE
- DISCIPLINE WITHOUT HUMILIATION
- BELIEF IN G-D
2) THE POWER OF WORDS
- NAME-DON'T SHAME...NAME THE ACTION THAT YOU WISH TO CORRECT BUT NEVER SHAME YOUR CHILD
- DON'T OVER PRAISE...PRAISE SHOULD BE DESERVED, NOT LAVISHED
- CRITICISM AND DISCIPLINE ARE NOT THE SAME...GIVE DIRECTION NOT CRITICISM
- MIRROR YOUR CHILD'S WORDS AND MOODS..."YOU SEEM UPSET", "YOU SOUND ANGRY"-SHOW EMPATHY
3) TEACH COMPASSION
- PARENTS SHOULD SHOW THEIR CHILDREN THAT THEY DO GOOD DEEDS, NOT JUST SPEAK ABOUT THEM
- SHOW KINDNESS TO FAMILY, NOT JUST FRIENDS OR STRANGERS
- INVOLVE CHILDREN WITH MITZVOT (GOOD DEEDS)
4) COMPASSION HANDS ON
- SCHOOL AGED KIDS CAN CALL A CLASSMATE WHO WAS ABSENT
- LITTLE CHILDREN CAN COLOR CARDS FOR GRANDPARENTS, NEIGHBORS, TEACHERS AND FRIENDS
- KIDS OF ALL AGES SHOULD CALL GRANDPARENTS TO SAY "HELLO", AND NOT JUST WHEN THEY GET A GIFT
- CHILDREN CAN ALWAYS HELP OTHERS-BABYSITTING, TUTORING, BAKING A TREAT FOR A FAMILY UNDER STRESS
- LITTLE KIDS CAN HELP WITH BABIES (ENCOURAGE THEM TO HELP INSTEAD OF PUSHING THEM AWAY)
5) TEACH RESPONSIBILITY
- CHOOSE DAILY GOALS THAT ARE ATTAINABLE
- GIVE CONSEQUENCES IF CHILDREN MISBEHAVE
- HELP KIDS FIND SOLUTIONS ON THEIR OWN
- DON'T GIVE YOUR KIDS ALL THE ANSWERS; ALLOW MISTAKES
- PRESENT OPTIONS, ALLOW CHOICES
- AGREE ON RULES BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN GET OUT OF LINE
- GIVE INDEPENDENCE-DON'T SUFFOCATE YOUR CHILD
6) SHOW YOUR CHILDREN THAT YOU CARE
- INSTEAD OF SAYING "WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU?”WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?" "WHAT KIND OF MESS DID YOU GET INTO NOW?"
- SHOW EMPATHY: "I THINK YOU HAD A REALLY HARD DAY" "IT LOOKS LIKE YOU'RE REALLY UPSET" -CHILDREN HEAR YOUR WORDS OF CARING
7) BUILD YOUR CHILDRENS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU
- COMMUNICATE WITH LOVE
- MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT WHILE SPEAKING
- DON'T SPEAK ON THE PHONE OR USE THE COMPUTER WHILE SPEAKING OR LISTENING TO YOUR KIDS
- SHOW INTEREST IN YOUR CHILD’S LIKES AND DISLIKES
- LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS POINT OF VIEW
8) OBSTACLES TO GOOD DISCIPLINE
- SHAMING CHILDREN-DISCIPLINING IN PUBLIC, SHAMING IN FRONT OF SIBLINGS OR FRIENDS
- CALLING KIDS NAMES-'CRYBABY' 'PAIN IN THE NECK' 'LAZYHEAD' 'KVETCHER'
- STRIPPING CHILDREN OF THEIR DIGNITY-"WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU?" "ARE YOU CRAZY?"
- DON'T DISCIPLINE IF YOU ARE OVERSTRESSED OR EXHAUSTED
- IT'S BETTER TO SAY "I'M UPSET, WE'LL TALK ABOUT THIS LATER"
- DON'T EVER SPEAK WHILE LOSING YOUR SELF CONTROL-YOU CAN DEVASTATE YOUR CHILD
- CRITICIZING IS NOT DISCIPLINING
- NEVER ALLOW CHILDREN TO FEEL THAT YOU DO NOT LOVE THEM
9) CONSEQUENCES
- CHILDREN SHOULD UNDERSTAND WHY THEY ARE BEING DISCIPLINED
- DON'T KEEP ON REMINDING CHILDREN OF THEIR MISTAKES OR WRONG BEHAVIOR AFTER THE CONSEQUENCE
- CHILDREN SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR APOLOGIES
- ENFORCE YOUR CONSEQUENCE-DON'T JUST THREATEN
- DON'T GIVE IN TO CRYING OR TEMPER TANTRUMS
- BE CONSISTENT
10) TRAITS FOR RAISING A CHILD WITH SOUL
- GRATITUDE
- RESPECT
- HUMILITY
- COMPASSION
- AWARENESS OF G- D
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